If you smile through your tears and sorrow
not everything will look completely black.
I was working on the site for one friend when another gave me a ring yesterday. My friend from high school called and we set up a meet at (never again) a casino...yes, I always lose, yes I lost. she did win enough to come out ahead. I enjoyed myself enough to not mind the loss.
But I won in that it was so good to get back in touch with a woman I had known for years and missed for many. We lost each other after we got married. It really has been more than 30 years since we saw each other last.
There was a lot of catching up to do and I will be getting back in touch with her soon as the weather gets better. Our kids are almost a gen apart because I started young but she is happy with her mate and has everything she needs. It was good to know that.
We spent almost eight hours playing a little, talking a lot, eating a little, talking some more and it did both of us a lot of good. I actually felt physically better after talking to her. There was so much I wanted to ask but didn't or forgot because we talked about loss.
I thought she could help me understand mine better and she did at least affirm I am really not crazy. I also could tell her that I know where the mate and her dear departed are and comfort her that way.
Looking forward to getting the rest of my friends back with me and hoping some of my current friends start coming around soon.
posted by Valerie - Still Riding Forward @ 5:56 PM
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How wonderful. It's friends like these that help you get over the rough patches.
Val, I agree with what was suggested in one of the earlier comments...ask for help! Those current friends who aren't coming around...ask them for something you need that would be difficult for you to do yourself...or ask them for something within their areas of expertise. Every one of them is hurting, most probably they are avoiding the pain and are feeling helpless because they (we) know that there is nothing that can be done. Helping in even a little way allows us (them) to feel less helpless and more in control of a hard situation...it might also get them back in the habit of coming to see you! (Hopefully Rust and I are in the family category?) I love you! Reb
That's the truth, Saur.
And Reb, who came running right back for me first thing and stayed to make sure I was ok?
While you are friends, you are also family with kids to deal with. I don't expect people with a life to have time to run 150 miles everytime I sniffle, lol.
It's that yes, I have things that need doing that I can't or don't really want to do....like the mouse trap that somehow wedge it's flip bar under the windowsill but the catch is released....eeuww! Ick!
But you are both right
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